Apr 18 2015


How God Used My Forgetfulness

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Forgetfulness? I’m the queen of that. You don’t even know what forgetfulness is until you’ve met me. This talent of mine shows up to some degree in just about everything, but one of the places it shines brightest is in navigation. I can drive somewhere a dozen times and still have no idea how to get there. I can get off the same elevator in the same building I’ve been to over and over and still not remember whether to turn right or left when I step out of it. And to top that, it is not at all unusual for me to drive past my turn because my mind is somewhere else and I forget to look for it. And I don’t just mean in the normal way like you do it. I mean I drive past it (first time), find somewhere to turn around and immediately get lost in thought again, so I pass it again (second time), turn around again, then MISS IT FOR A THIRD TIME. I actually do this. I am, indeed, the queen of forgetfulness. (By the way, if you can top that, I want to hear about it in the comments!)

Once, I was completely positive I remembered how to get somewhere. (I was wrong.) I pulled over in a parking lot to try and figure it out and said in frustration to my three-and-a-half year old, “Oh, Z! Your mom is such a dork!” Calmly he said, “Thank you, Mommy.” When I asked what he was thanking me for, he said, “For being honest.” Well, there you go.

This son of mine is now six, and one of his favorite things in life is the video game, Skylanders. He absolutely loves it, and his memory astounds me. This empire has 4 games with over 300 characters divided between 10 different elements, and each character has multiple upgrade possibilities. He only owns a small amount of them, but he somehow knows them all, and he manages to keep all of this information in his brain so that he can quiz his mama on it.

Seriously? Has my child not met me? I tried to explain to him that Mommy just can’t remember all the Skylanders, and he looked at me like I had two heads. It seemed absolutely absurd to him that I can’t recall what he remembers so vividly.

And here is where God used my forgetfulness to illustrate something I really needed to learn. Perhaps you could use the reminder as well. Not long after the Skylander conversation, I was praying and reading my Bible, and God lovingly reminded me how He is even more talented at forgetfulness than I am.

Hebrews 10:17

Do you know why my son can remember all of those Skylanders in such detail? Because he spends time with that game. He focuses on it. He rehearses it in his mind. I don’t. I have my mind on things that matter to a mama like running a household and taking care of my child. I don’t bother myself with committing 300 Skylanders to memory.

Guess what – WE are the ones spending time with our mistakes. WE are the ones who focus on it, and WE are the ones who rehearse it in our minds. God doesn’t. He has His mind on things that matter to Him like running the universe and taking care of His children. He doesn’t bother Himself with committing all our sins to memory. All He wants is for us to recognize it was wrong and ask for His forgiveness and help so He can toss it into His sea of forgetfulness and be done with it.

If you haven’t sincerely asked Him to forgive you of something, then do it.


Then let your own forgetfulness kick in and move on. There’s no sense pulling the Lord into your past when He has no idea what you’re talking about in the first place. Besides, I assure you He’d much rather walk with you into a beautiful future.

From the heart of Dixie Mama… always say grace.

Do you know anyone who might need to hear this? Share it to encourage others. And if you enjoyed this, you might also like to read one of my earlier posts, Learning God’s Love Through Time-outs and Science.


  1. Christy

    Great post!

    1. Hayley Cranfield

      Thank you, Christy!

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